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As we know, the act of having a tea became popular during the Victorian days. Most of us, when thinking of teas, think of all the Victorian printed linens and dainty flowered patterns on the china. The table elaborately set with the delicate doilies and the shiny silver servers.

In order to have successful and enjoyable teas please consider Tea Etiquette. Yes, there is a correct way of hosting teas and experiencing them. But please remember, the act of the tea is not the most important, it is the spirit of the tea that makes it so special. I don’t want you to get all wrapped up in materializing the tea party, but to be able to have a flourishing and memorable one.

First and foremost, treat your guests with respect and kindness. Always use the Golden Rule. (Treat others as you want to be treated.) That is what teas are all about really. This is a time that you are honoring these guests. You are to make them feel special. The way society is today, it is of utmost importance to bring teas back in this way.

Always send invitations to your guests. I am not talking about email invites. You can either make them on your computer or by hand. Pre-made invitations are also available in card stores. By sending your guests invites you are already showing them respect. You will be able to not only tell them the time of arrival but you can let them know what the dress code is. I find a lot of women don’t know what to wear to a tea. *Hint- no jeans and t-shirts allowed.

When seated at the table, always put your napkin on your lap. The napkin should never touch the table once you are seated at the table. Even when you need to leave the table, you need to put the napkin on your seat.

Like the napkin, your fork should never go back down on the table. When placing your fork down, it should go on the side of your plate.

Tea should always be sipped. Don’t chug it down, slurp it down or throw it back like a shot glass. This is a time to act like a lady. Have fun with it. You can even lift your little pinky finger.

When taking your food servings. Only go for one serving. Don’t go back for seconds. Remember, you are being a lady. Now, if you are not the host and the host offers seconds, it is a good thing to see what everyone else is doing. If the host INSISTS that everyone take more, be the example and only take one of something. This way, you are honoring your guest, but you are still being a lady.

When preparing your tea for your cup. Go with England’s way and put the cream and sugar in BEFORE pouring your tea in the cup. By the way, heavy cream is not good with tea. It is better to use half and half or milk. And try to use sugar cubes if you are hosting. It just looks better.