As I mentioned before in “Tea Party Etiquette for Guests – Before the Party”, always make sure you are on time for the tea. Be there as close to the time given as possible. Even being early is not good etiquette. The hostess is most likely trying to get everything looking perfect – lighting the candles, putting on the music, etc – for the guests to arrive in the last fifteen minutes.

Rule #1 – Never be Late

Being late for anything is never good - a few minutes late is sometimes unavoidable. If you are going to be over five to ten minutes late, you need to call your hostess and let her know. It is also etiquette to ask and make sure you are still welcome, even if you are going to be late. Most likely you will be welcomed with open arms, but it is still good manners to ask. Also, be sure to tell your hostess to start festivities without you, you’ll be there as soon as you can.

Once you get there, no matter what time – hopefully on time- Make sure you are smiling when you are greeted at the door. Say your hellos and while handing your hostess gift to the hostess, thank her for inviting you. If you did end up calling due to lateness, again offer your apologies.

When in the door always say hello to everyone, whether or not you know them. It doesn’t matter if you are shy or not, try not to go in a corner and become a wall flower.

 

Rule #2 Remember Your Table Manners